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Joy to The Word

Dec 26 2014 Hiring an escort for threesome play: a couple's guideCategory: Diary of a San Francisco Courtesan     05:58PM   2

My good friend Laura and her husband Ethan have been married for a few years now. This year, they decided to open up their marriage and explore pandora's box; the world of non-monogamy. They don't consider themselves a “poly” couple (polyamorous, a shortened definition meaning  “many loves”). They just desired to have other sexual partners without cheating or lying to each other about what they were doing. Sex columnist Dan Savage coined the phrase “monogamish” for couples that don’t conform to the confines of a traditional partnership or marriage while remaining faithful to one another. Many couples report that, while they encounter jealousy navigating the new rules and boundaries,  it’s actually creates a stronger bond and more honesty within their marriage. 

Laura identifies as straight but bi-curious, and her husband has always fantasized of his wife being pleasured by another woman as well as having 2 beautiful women tag teaming him. Whe they seriously considered making it a reality, it was too much of a taboo subject to casually talk about at their cocktail parties within their community. At first, they didn’t have much success finding their perfect  pet “unicorn”. They tried Okcupid and some other dating sites that featured married and open couples but weren’t clicking with anyone. They went to play parties (or “swingers” clubs) but didn’t find the deeper connection they wanted, and they were also seeking guidance as they had never tried this before. Ethan thought about approaching one of his coworkers who flirted with him, even though she saw his wedding ring and always asked about Laura. He knew how awkward it would be to see her at work the next day. And what if she started having a real emotional attachment to Ethan or his wife and it created a rift? One night I had a few drinks with Ethan and Laura night at a bar, and when Laura left the table, he hinted how much he loved the photos on my website and wanted me (Joy, the escort) to be part of their triad party in their hot tub. I replied, “You have great taste, Ethan. I’ve known you and Laura for many years and love you both dearly. Which is exactly why I’m going to refer you to one of my open escort friends.”

I love entertaining and educating couples as Joy de Vive, but I explained why it would be a bad idea to get me involved. Family members who are therapists or doctors often refer to their colleagues when their immediate family seeks help. Professionalism, consideration and the distance outside the relationship creates a natural boundary. So my friends hired one of my courtesan recommendations (I was their matchmaker) and it was a success! They all had great things to say about one another after their date, so it was a three-way win-win. Laura is still warming up to having new partners in their life, so for now she’s more comfortable playing together with Ethan (“couples that play together stay together” as the saying goes). I also know some straight male escorts that cater to the male-female-male (MFM) fantasy, but the play is strictly focused on the woman as men tend to be more squeamishly homophobic than women when playing in the boudoir with the same sex. 

Now that they’ve had a few threesome experiences together, Laura’s found a part-time play partner on OkCupid with Ethan’s full blessing. For women, it’s much easier for them to find play partners online than it is for a straight, married guy seeking a woman for just a sexual relationship. However, Laura feels a little more skittish about Ethan playing on his own, so they set up some house rules they could both feel good about: Ethan travels a lot for business, so they agreed that he can see escorts while traveling, but he can’t see the same escort more than once a month. Laura can see her part-time lovers when he’s away on business but she only can meet them outside their home. Yes, they both talked about their fears and jealousy since opening up their relationship. However, one of the things that they’ve developed  is compersion towards each other: compersion is thought of as the opposite of jealousy, when you feel happiness for the other person’s joy. This has actually brought them closer and they feel more in love than ever. Personally, I wish the majority of partnerships and marriages in the world could be this open. Communication, trust and love without limits leads the way. Sometimes “the other woman” (or man) is just what a marriage needs to stay healthy and hot.

Book recommendations: 

Sex at Dawn, Christopher Ryan
Opening Up, Tristan Taormino
The Ethical Slut, Dossie Easton
Passionate Marriage, David Schnarch
Betty Dodson’s blog on threesomes 

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Miss Joy said on 02-08-2015 at 11:06 pm:

You've very welcome, ThinkingGeek! I work with couples as a somatic sex educator and coach, but I also love being in the role of Princess Joy; she gets to be in the middle of attention and spoiled by an adoring King and Queen. Sometimes when you divide a couple's attention, it beings them closer. I love being the unicorn princess, watching 2 people fly away on a rainbow when I depart.

ThinkingGeek said on 02-08-2015 at 4:26 pm:

Wonderfully written and thought provoking. Please continue to share your knowledge and experience in order to help the rest if us on our journey of self growth. I need more Joy!